Do you have one person in your family that absolutely drives you insane? Well, I do. I won't mention any names but I will tell you this - she is my husband's older sister. Now, please don't get me wrong - I love her and I definately pray for her but she can tick me off quicker than anyone I've ever known. I am usually a very tolerant person and the older I get, the longer it takes to make me mad (I used to have a very short fuse - Praise God for healing in that area).
But, one telephone call from "her" and I am blowing my top.
Last night, right in the middle of Vacation Bible School, my cell phone rings - it is her. At first, giving her the benefit of the doubt, I thought she was calling to check on her daughter who is spending the week here to attend VBS (they live about two hours away) - but noooooooooo - she wanted me to jump head first into another family situation that was brewing at that particular moment. Has the gall to tell me it's my duty!!! Uh, the last place any sane person wants to be is in the middle of a family squabble. Besides, did I mention that I was in the middle of VBS??? And, I'm the music leader for VBS. Even if I had thought I should get involved - what was I supposed to do with all those kids waiting to sing? "O.K. kids, here are the words, sing this song about 50 times and I'll be back as soon as I can." Yeah, right.
This is not the first time and I suspect it is far from the last that she calls here trying to micromanage everyones life. My darling husband refers to her as "the crazy sister." I try to be a bit more discerning in my choice of adjectives - but, you know, the man has a point.
O.K., I have vented and feel much better. I sometimes wonder if other families have someone like this among the relatives. If so, how does one deal with a person like this?? So far, I have found that distance is a wonderful thing. I also love caller id - I can just simply ignore the call. Which is what I should have done last night.
I can hardly wait to hear comments on this post. Please, let me know I'm not the only one!!
2 comments:
I have one person on each side of my family that drives me a little bonkers. One on my own side (a cousin) and one on my in-law side (one of my husband's brothers' significant other).
Sigh. They can be so trying. Before every get together we have to psych ourselves up by remind each other that they are creations of God and we try to imagine how God feels about them. Also, they aren't believers so we give ourselves a pep talk about demonstrating Christian love, etc. Then I just try to kill them with kindness and pretend I'm not the kind of person who notices the annoying traits of others, although I AM!!
But if either of these ladies called me on a regular basis I don't know what I would do with myself. I find myself crossing my fingers that one, in particular, won't be able to make family gatherings, as it is. If she was personally calling me, stirring up trouble and trying to get me involved I would be super stressed!
Families are tough. I'll say a prayer for you!
oh yes I guess we all have one or two like that maybe I am not doing the right thing but I just let my sister-in-law ramble on and on with me saying oh well,then if I don't agree with everything she says this is what I get ( some Christian you are)this said in a very sarcastic voice.Grant me Patience dear Father:0)
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